"As with all finite play, the goal of veiled sexuality is to bring itself to an end.

By contrast, infinte players have no interest in seduction or in restricting the freedom of another to one's own boundaries of play. Infinte players recognise choice in all aspects of sexuality. They may see in themselves and in others, for example, the infant's desire to compete for the mother, but they also see that there is neither physiologicak nor societal destiny in sexual patterns. Who chooses to compete with another can also choose to play with another.

Sexuality is not a bounded phenomenon but a horizontal phenomenon for infinite players. One can never say, therefore, that an infinite player is homosexual, or heterosexual, or celibate, or adulterous or faithful - because each of these definitions has to do with boundaries, with circumscribed areas and styles of play. Infinite players do not play within sexual boundaries, but with sexual boundaries. They are concerned not with power but with vision.
In their sexual play they suffer others, allow them to be as they are. Suffering others, they open themselves. Open, they learn both about others and about themselves. Learning, they grow. What they learn is not about sexuality, but about how to be more concretely and originally, themselves, to be the genius of their own actions, to be whole.
Moving therefore from an original center, the sexual engagements of infinite players have no standards, no ideals, no marks of success of failure. Neither orgasm nor conception is a goal of their play, although either may be part of the play.

There is nothing hidden in infinite sexuality. Sexual desire is exposed as sexual desire and is never therefore serious. Its satisfaction is never an achievement, but an act in a continuing relationship, and therefore joyous. It's lack of satisfaction is never a failure, but only a matter to be taken into further play."